Thank You Headspace

 

I don’t do any more free gigs. I don’t need the ‘exposure’. In fact, more and more these days, I’m inclined to retract from society and maybe just grow apples to feed horses with. In any case, free or discounted gigs with the promise of selling lots of merchandise is not something I do anymore.

 

But… Every now and then. Not often, but occasionally, I will at my own cost, travel to another city to speak, perform or facilitate a workshop with no fee requested, if I believe in the cause or the person inviting me. And that is what I will be doing this weekend.

 

While planning and preparing the Townsville Cultural Festival, I will fly to Brisbane this Friday to offer a workshop in Warwick on Saturday afternoon, and a full-length show in the evening at the Warwick Town Hall.  The event is donation based, and all donations are going to Headspace.

 

I understand that Warwick is a long drive from Brisbane, and I know there are many things to do on a Saturday night in Brisbane. But, I also know that there are people who live in between those two places. And if you happen to find that you are free, this Saturday 1st of July, then do it. Perhaps make a day of it, maybe you’d like to attend the workshop as well or just the performance.

 

Come. Attend. Be present and show me your face. Say hello, and tell me what moves you. Whatever donations you make at the door will go directly to Headspace, and who knows, maybe hearing what I have to say might actually offer you some relief or solace. A support perhaps, as we come to terms with the end of civilisation as we knew it and this existential angst we deal with. Even if just for a short while, let us smile as if we’re not terrified.

 

It is so easy to forget that all we really want in this life is to be heard, to be acknowledged and to be of some form of service to others. That’s it really… to feel good and make people around us feel good. Am I right lads?

 

Anyways, having gone through some heavy shit in my past, having attempted to take my own life, having suffered from debilitating depression and mind shattering anxiety in the years gone by, not only do I have a few things to speak to you about, but also organisations and initiatives like Headspace are important to me.

 

Self-harm, suicide, depression, anxiety, and panic attacks are all signs that our society is not functioning correctly, we are ill, collectively not individually. We have to acknowledge that we are in a bad state. Some would say we have cancer. If we had been a horse in the Melbourne Cup, we would have been put down. Stop eating animals it’s cruel and unkind. If we were a computer we would erase and reformat the drive. Maybe nature will do that for us. I don’t know.

 

But in the meantime, we need initiatives like Headspace, and we need to look out for each other, and we need to acknowledge that as fierce and powerful as we may be, just like nature, we are all also very fragile. We should remind ourselves that we are all seeking our own resolutions and trying to befriend or behead our own demons, however you wish to deal with them.

 

Consider the thought that those people you find so easy to judge, the ones staring at intently at their iPhones on the bus or train home, are just doing their best to not burst into tears in front of others. And maybe when they get to their home and they are alone again, they burst into tears the minute they see their own face in the mirror. Just a thought.

 

So be kind to one another, be gentle, be patient and if you are willing and able to make it to Warwick this Saturday, then be present.

 

Erfan

 

 

Warwick Town Hall 6 pm Saturday 1st July

For event details please email Bronwyn Clark at  bronwyn_millicent_clark@hotmail.com or call or text her on 0421 723 200 to let her know you’re coming.

 

Blunt force trauma to the heart…

 

Without a doubt one of the most effective and powerful motivators of personal growth is heartache. Whether it be, deceit, betrayal, the abrupt ending of an intense relationship, or a sudden death. Trauma to the heart, if it does not floor you with the initial blow, can be an accelerator of growth. Regardless it will make you grow, but how you receive it in that first moment determines how much growth is initiated.

 

How you manage to hold your tongue and remain calm, how you manage to catch your breath and stay at peace, how you manage to process instantly in your brain and respond with, “I understand.” This is how you accelerate your development.

 

To take a blow to the heart and not only remain standing but to hold no resentment or feel any negative emotion towards the assailant is the most powerful form of alchemy that exists. In truth, it is the only type of transmutation that has ever meant anything, the only form of alchemy that has held any worth. All other forms of alchemy pale into insignificance when considered against the alchemy of the heart and the ability to transmute emotion. If you can receive a form of emotion, transform it and send it out again as a new form of energy, you are edging closer to mastery.

 

To receive the weight of the falling sword with arms wide open and a smile on one’s face is the most powerful stance one could ever be in. When no force can overcome you, when no action can influence you to change the nature of your energy, when peaceful acceptance is what you offer in return to any affliction you are faced with, then you have become the master of your own being.

 

So much talk of being the master of our destiny or the master of one’s universe, when so little effort and attention has been afforded the task of becoming the master of our own emotional selves. For what hope do we have of influencing the environment around us and to inspire new actions and behaviours of those around us, if full and total mastery of our own self is not first obtained.

 

If you cannot practice controlled governance of your emotional self and even your physiological reactions to hurtful words or heartbreaking truths, why set yourself the task of changing the world? Why entertain such fancies? Why imagine that you have any hope at all in becoming a leader amongst lost men, or a champion of social change if you still react and respond like a needy child or a resentful teenager.

You can say, but that’s just how I feel, or I can’t help feeling this way, or my heart is aching, or my body reacts in this way, but that’s all BS. Whether it is your physiological response to heartbreaking words or the domestic violence perp who screams, “It’s Her fault, she makes me so angry!” You know it’s all BS. How you respond to this world is only ever a choice you make, and you are the only one ever responsible for the way you conduct yourself.

That’s the difference between the instinctive animal that acts in perfect harmony with the environment that it has evolved within, and the human being who has the ability to condition its own behaviour. Consider the significance of that statement. The difference between the human being and the animal is the ability to condition the self.

The animal will learn new skills when taught, it will learn from its natural environment and develop new skills and faculties, certainly. But a dog will never teach itself to sit, nor will an elephant teach itself how to paint. Make use of this ability, make full use of this gift. If you can’t teach yourself to remain calm, or to not take offence or to not be upset by unkind words, well…

The thing is, this world doesn’t need any more opinions, bickering or hurt feelings, it’s crumbling under the weight of them, this world needs pillars.

If you still have needs that require being met by another person, their attention, their love, their acceptance or respect, then there is an imagined lack that you must first address. If you need these things and their absence causes you angst, anxiety or hurt, then you are not yet prepared to be a leader.

 

When you do not flinch, when you do not become tense, when lies, betrayal, deceit and mindless aggression cannot disturb your peaceful loving kindness, then you are the master of your own being, master of your domain, then you are worthy of an audience and truly fit to lead.

 

Do not look to others to reciprocate and replenish the love you offer them, do not expect them to understand the extent or purity of the love you offer. If you do, you will be disappointed.

 

Instead look towards the source of your being and the architect of this existence, to give you what you need to continue. Understand that energy flows from a place of higher density to lower density, as does heat, water and love. So seek your replenishment from that which is greater than you, not from your peers.

 

You cannot barter your love for the love of another, this is not how it works. Your ideas of economy and finance are flawed imaginings that are not accurate or correctly aligned with the true nature of existence. This discrepancy has caused you much discomfort. Look to nature in order to achieve a more apt financial system that serves humanity and does not destroy nature. Then consider spirituality and themes of a spiritual nature in that new paradigm.

 

Your ideas of God, love, profit, progress, spirituality and even the after-life, your understanding of the concepts of abundance, prosperity, development, progress and growth, have all been based on and stem from a fundamentally flawed economic construct that is not a true reflection of the nature of existence.

 

You cannot just impose any economic system crafted in your imagination on a world it does not suit. You cannot then argue that one is best suited for life on this planet over another, or that one suits a particular region and not another. This universe existed before your ideas of economy, so look to the workings of nature and the planet that you exist within, that you may glean some insight and then create an economic structure that serves life on this planet. Look at the functions and systems of nature, consider the innate economy that exists in the workings of nature, and try to emulate that. Understand it will take time to perfect, but it starts with gifting.

 

 

Until such time, offer your love, your generosity, your kindliness, patience and enduring compassion to all who may cross your path and do not expect to receive it back in equal measure. I tell you, your expectations have been the cause of a great deal of your grief; acknowledge that and let it go. Offer without expectation of receiving.

 

Trust that God is the witness of your existence and that what you endure is being noted. Trust that God will afford you mercy, compassion and wisdom. Trust that you will be replenished with the courage, strength and steadfastness that you require in order for you to continue on.

 

If you fail to believe or trust in, or even recognise any awareness higher than your own, then no words of mine, or any other wisdom of a lasting nature will ever serve you, for you have already severed yourself from the source of life, the source of knowledge and wisdom. To come to know and comprehend this higher awareness is the very purpose of your existence. What can be done for the ray of light that does not believe or acknowledge it has come of the sun?

 

How can you expect to become a beacon of light and a leader of the heedless if you are to react and respond in like manner? How are you to show forth trustworthiness, integrity and honour, if you cannot show resilience in the face of the derision and impertinence they offer you. Strengthen your heart, my love, that you may with ease and joy carry the burdens they heap upon you. Strengthen your mind that you may see clearly the path ahead and let your thoughts and ideas act as lights that might show the way.

 

Rely not on your fellow beings to receive you in the way you receive them. Know that you have been entrusted with a position of leadership and as such, it is expected of you to offer forth love regardless of what you receive.

 

Erfan Daliri – 5 June 2017

Hasta Siempre Comandante – The Post-Human Revolutionary Code

When asked what the most important quality was for a revolutionary to possess, Ernesto ‘Che’ Guevara replied “At the risk of sounding ridiculous. A great revolutionary is guided by great feelings of Love. Love of humanity, of Justice, and Truth.”

 

Further to that, I would like to add a few words…

 

 

Code of Conduct – Article E1

 

Practice emotional hygiene, be vigilant with your inner dialogue, reinforce your internal equanimity, take pride in your mental clarity and focus energy on developing your core strength; both physical and emotional. In every moment ask yourself, “which action would I be most proud of?” And do that.

 

Eat clean, live clean, become familiar with the straight edge philosophy and embody it. Remove the need for unnecessary packaging from the food that you eat, and find nourishment that requires no packaging, it’s not that hard. Remove all unnecessary packaging from your conversations, and engage only in conversations that are straightforward, upfront and unashamedly honest. When you cannot speak your truth to someone’s face they can already tell. When you do, they can also tell.

 

There is no doubt that you must live a vegan life. If in doubt, educate yourself. The reasons fall into 4 categories; moral, environmental, health, and economic. Become familiar with the term ‘non-participation’ it’s going to come up a lot. It’ll be one of your most effective tools when navigating this phase of capitulation and restructure.

 

Non-participation will be a core theme for us because our actions can no longer be justified by their means anymore. And if all you can do is to not participate in practices that you do not believe in, then just do that. It is a more powerful position to come from than one who is frantically doing something they think is helping while supporting the systems they are fighting against.

 

Whether it is with regards to false economies, the wage slave existence, the flawed banking system, the meat and dairy industry, the drug and alcohol fueled nightlife scene, the packaging of foods, or the supporting of unethical companies that profit from selling poisons, or any number of other industries or practices that continue to prop up this system that is causing us trauma, removing ourselves and ceasing our financial and emotional support of these structures is key.

 

Practising non-participation is crucial, and it must come first and foremost before all other forms of social change activism. It is how you can begin living in integrity and with honour. It is how your words will carry more weight and travel further. It is how your ideas will become clearer and your mind will become broader. You must embody what you believe in first before further truths are brought to the surface. Living in contradiction is a heavy and painful burden.

 

Do not participate in lower level conversation, base-level emotional exchanges, and most certainly do not engage in, or even allow for back-biting and gossip to occur in your presence. This is not befitting of Novalanders. Initiate conversations of a higher nature, discuss themes from an intellectual, academic, poetic or spiritual realm.

 

Do not become gloomy and angsty by engaging in politicised arguments and dramas; the entire system is corrupt and failing, there is no need to take sides now. Rather speak of philosophies, ideals and ideas that might lead us to a new age.

 

Remain calm and always be kind, practice being infinitely patient. If you feel you are about to lose it, ask yourself, how losing your patience and composure might help you or serve your situation. I assure you, there will never be any context where losing your patience will be of benefit. Do not react to unkind words, nor respond to unconscious behaviour, lest you become drawn into ineffective and ignoble actions.

 

Be aware of your posture, your gait, your demeanour and your gaze, observe your thoughts, practice physical and mental cleanliness and be aware of the smell of your breath. Walk with conviction, speak clearly and loudly, in a courteous and polite manner. Conduct yourself in such a way that causes those who are witness to ponder whether they are in the presence of nobility. For what is being noble, then to act in such a manner?

 

Sell your car. Buy a bike. In fact, sell anything that no longer aligns with your philosophy on life. Leather shoes, woollen jumpers, ugg boots, and furs. Get rid of them and research alternatives. Someone will buy them off you. One day society will stop making them. For now, sell them off for what you can, don’t be a martyr.

 

Instead become immortal. Disengage with the trivial bs of this world or you’ll be forced to. By choice or by force, you will become detached from this world, it’s the only way you will find your way back home. Your heart will be broken, time and again, until you learn to let go of this world and everything within it.

 

The individual and the collective trauma we’re experiencing is for the purpose of awakening us and drawing us closer to our true nature; away from our animalistic past and closer to spiritually enlightened behaviour.

 

So slow down, shut up, sit quietly and breathe deep. Realise that if you still care if your shirt has a stain on it or your jacket has a hole before a meeting, then you’re still too easily distracted by trivialities.

 

So turn off the TV, put down those drinks, turn the air conditioners off, stop going to shopping malls, don’t eat animals anymore, it’s cruel and unkind. Fuck the economy, that’s how we got ourselves into this situation, don’t be blind. Don’t use your hearing selectively. Investigate a field of knowledge diligently before you speak of it. If you are an amateur, admit it openly and you might learn something.

 

Educate yourselves on the things that matter. Pick up text books, download PDFs, watch lectures and listen to audio books. No longer speak of sports, of fashion, of the trendiest new gelato place or reality tv shows; that is not conversation befitting of Novalanders. This world is literally dying, we have no time for such uselessness.

 

Be focused, stay true, be calm, remain clear-headed and keep your bodies fit and trim. Be agile both physically and mentally, you never know how you might need to defend yourself or from where an attack might come.

 

Know your first aid, study crowd control and become familiar with conflict resolution. Have a basic understanding of global politics, economics and history, but always remember this is all just an illusion. Teach yourself the basics of mathematics, physics, chemistry and yoga. Understand that everything in this universe is connected and there is no ‘other’.

 

This world needs champions. These people need exemplars. It is time for you to stand up and charge forward. Now is the time for you to stand by your intuitions, your ethics, your morals and if need be take a bullet for them. The dawn of a new day is breaking, and light will soon shine forth. Be aware that the actions you are engaged in will soon be laid bare for all to see. So act now if you wish to be on the right side of the sweeping hand that will wipe this earth clean.

 

There are too many amongst us who make claims and state audaciously that now is the time for change, but cannot bear to forego sleep, give up their souvlaki wraps or even so much as fast for a day, much less put everything on the line, risk ruin, ridicule and their own lives. But I tell you my friends, this is what is required. Weakness, sloth and cognitive dissonance have infiltrated most of the minds and bodies of the peoples of the earth. Be not one of them who has been lost to idle fancies, or those whose courage has been found wanting.

 

There are far too many disappointments in this world of ours; do not be one of them.

 

These people need lanterns of light to look towards, they need beacons of hope and emblems of resiliences. Be the halcyons this world is in need of. Be the kind of person who seeks not to point out other’s shortcomings because you are only ever focused on your own growth. Seek no one’s approval, recognition or support; if you need validation from your contemporaries you’ll become a plaything and you will lose yourself in vain thoughts.

 

We do not need those who still seek validation or those who are distracted by the fanfare of this world. Be not a child lost in the bedazzling lights and puppetry of the show. Instead, seek out the moral of the story. Understand the journey. And be brave enough to accept the hard truth.

 

This world is full of maddening ignorance, prejudice, shortsighted, self-serving fools who are lost in seeing only to their own bodily needs and desires and will be of no service or use. Accept that, move on, and continue doing the work. Do not concern yourself with their ways. Instead remain fast and firm in your moral grounding, be still in the face of tribulation, and calm in the face of heartbreak. Do not react to hatred nor retaliate to acts of aggression.

 

Be not of those who speak false words or make claims they have no intention of living up to. Understand the concepts and themes that you wish to speak about, and be certain you know the truth of the matter before you say anything. Until then it is best to refrain. Be silent and witness, while you continue to prepare and train.

 

Do not become a victim of petty bickering, impatience or a short-tempered nature. These things will do you no benefit, and are beneath your station.

 

It’s not going to be easy to be who you’ve been asked to be. It is no small feat to surpass what has been expected of human beings. You are not here to be a proponent of mediocrity, nor are you here just to fill seats.

 

You’re here to break all boundaries, exceed all expectations, and leave behind any who cling dearly to things of this world or still harbour petty fears. Those who run with you will be there all the way. And those who fall back were never going to make it anyway, so pay them no mind. Lean into life. Make yourself proud of the person you became through the hardship and the strife.

 

Understand that everything the people had once put their faith in has failed and disappointed them, they’ve been hurt, they’ve been let down. Now they need you to be an indomitable source of courage and strength who will never fade or fall back. Never fail them my fellow Novalanders, they have already been hurt too many times. They need someone to trust, someone to believe in, someone to rely on. And that is us my friends.

 

Onee Pahl Zjen

 

 

 

 

The pain we’ve caused in our Search for Meaning

The fact that a single act can have innumerable opinions attached to it means the opinion actually means nothing. The opinion is not a matter of fact, it is simply a single perspective and it does not constitute truth. So I urge you to not consider your opinions as truth, but only as fleeting, momentary expressions.

Do not place judgment, do not hold too firmly onto your beliefs. Your beliefs are fleeting, ever changing, transitory. You yourself can recognise how your own opinions on a matter have changed over the course of time. That which you placed your opinion on has not changed, and yet your opinion has. Therefore, your opinion means nothing, whether it be regarding your own self or another. It is simply a belief you carried for a certain period of time, until which point experience led you to believe something else.

And yet it seems what we believe is all we have. This is the paradox. The fact that a certain act or situation can result in an infinite number of opinions renders the opinion worthless and proves that we have not seen the reality of the matter. So if we cannot see the reality of any matter, and we never truly know something for what it is, then all we are left with is what we believe it is. But how can one say they have understood the essence of anything if an opposing or varying opinion exists? How am I to know that my belief or belief system at any point in time has any relationship with the truth if another, contradictory belief exists? It seems it is only by the superposition of beliefs that we gain any faith in them.

This is why we form communities. This is why we form cliques. This is how we fend off the uncertainty and angst; by finding others who agree with what we believe. It is not the opinion that we are most passionate about, it is not the belief or faith that we live for and die for, for we can recognise how these things change over time. It is the sense of certainty that holding onto it, while others are also holding onto it, that we yearn for. The conflict, the violence, the aggression, the wars which have been fought over belief systems actually have nothing to do with people’s conviction in that belief system. Rather, it is human beings fighting for their tenuous grip on a fragile and threatened identity. It is only in numbers that we feel safe. It is terrifying and testing to hold an opinion or belief that no one else does. But the larger the group who believe that same thing, the safer we feel, the more convinced we become of our closeness to truth. It is in fact truth that we are seeking.

We are not fighting over which direction we should face when we are praying, or what we should call this God; we are not fighting to defend whether God exists or not; we are fighting each other for our sense of sanity. It’s as if, at our core, we recognise the nothingness of it all. It is as if, deep down, we realise there is nothing here that is real. And so, we dig in, we cling to ideas and opinions and belief systems that are in themselves meaningless, but somehow gain weight by virtue of the number of people who share it. We trick ourselves into thinking that we have laid hold onto something that is real and all others are false. Like weights, like anchors, these opinions, these beliefs, hold us in place. They weigh us down, and make us feel connected to this earth, to this reality, and give us a reason to remain here.

For the nothingness that surrounds us is terrifying. And like gravity, our nationalism, our religions, our political affiliations, and the sporting teams for which we barrack, give us a sense of stability. We cling on so tight, we kill each other over them, we kill ourselves over them because we are afraid of flying. We are afraid of free fall. We are afraid of the infinite. We are afraid of God, and so we construct an infinitely smaller and limited concept in our minds, failing to recognise that we could never fathom the extent of such a thing through our thoughts, story or art.

How heart-wrenching, that we hold onto such tiny things. How heartbreaking, that the extent of our nobility terrifies us into belittling ourselves and each other. We draw lines, we draw boxes, we create boundaries and build walls, and then squeeze ourselves into them. It’s as if the infinite nature of our existence is unfathomable, and as such, we cut the infinite up into pieces so that we may come to terms with it, digest it, piece by piece. We make ourselves into drops because the ocean terrifies us. We become grains of sand because we are afraid of the desert. If only we ceased our attempts to understand everything. If only we stopped trying to make sense of it. We might have just realised the beauty of all of it.

If only we could find one thing that we all believed in. If only we could extend the walls of our belief systems further and further apart until which point we found something we all believed in with all of our heart and soul. If only we could let go of culture and creed, forget of the nation-state, look beyond religion, colour and gender. Perhaps if we were to remove ourselves from these categories, these shelters, if we could step out of these clay huts we’ve built ourselves, and we found one thing, just one thing that we all believed in, then we wouldn’t have to argue about right or wrong.

Perhaps then we wouldn’t have to kill, degrade, denigrate, abuse, in order to defend our limited beliefs and defend fragile and ever-changing identities. Is there not one thing we can all agree on? Beyond our creation stories that differ, beyond our languages that vary, beyond our opinions that are fleeting, can we not find one thing that every single being on this earth can believe in? Can we not step out of these stories that we have crafted in order to fend off the angst that we found ourselves born into?

It seems it has been our refusal to let go of these stories, these identities, that has withheld us from witnessing the truth that is. It seems these anchors of certainty that we’ve crafted in times when we did not know of others and other ways of being, are potentially withholding us from recognising an even greater identity that exists; one that encompasses all of humanity and becomes the cause of our unity and solidarity.

As these older and limited identities came into contact with others in years gone by, we felt impelled to fight and defend them because we believed them to be related to truth, and the existence of an alternative belief system caused us to question the validity of our own.

As the conflicts edged towards unbearable, as the mindlessness of the bloodshed became apparent, alliances formed, and communities became tribes, tribes became nation-states, nation-states were usurped by religious belief systems. Smaller belief systems merged and coalesced for the sake of peacefulness. Larger battles were fought between larger groups until again either one ideology was victorious, or the mindlessness became apparent and the establishment of a treaty or broader understanding brought peace to a region.

Again, it seems, we have reached a point where the mindlessness of the bloodshed is becoming ever more apparent, and the grief ever more unbearable, and as such, a greater, all-encompassing, singular belief must be found in order to bring peace to humanity.

Can we not find one thing that we all agree on, and place our faith and trust in that? Can we let go of tradition, culture, creed, and outdated belief systems and place our attention on a point of unity and solidarity that resonates with one and all? Can we agree on the exquisite beauty of a few simple truths that cut across all boundaries and borders and leave the discord creating minutia aside? I guess it depends on what we feel is more important to us, our stories of the past, our ancestors, our faded memories of someone else’s limited perspective of something they once believed in? …Or the story that we are co-creating right now. Which side of history do you want to be on

The question is, which side of history do you want to be on? The one that fought tooth and nail to uphold the past, or will you be one of those who lived, worked, and died for the evolution and betterment of humanity?

Erfan Daliri 27/5/2017

Soon this will all come to an end…

It’s been a long journey… I know. There have been times you didn’t think you’d make it, but you did. There may have been times when you wanted to end it. I know I did. Perhaps more often than I’d like to admit.
But we made it. We’re still here, and all those moments we thought might have crushed us, or killed us, all those times when it seemed like life was too painful to continue… well, we got through them…
We may or may not have learned from those experiences, but guess what, we’re still standing so we can learn next time. Just be present. Be aware of yourself and your surroundings, stay calm and you will see a little more light than the last time. It’s been a long journey, I know, and though there is much still to go, it will all be over very soon. It will all go back to nought, so despair not.
Keep your peace, hold your calm, find your feet, stay kind, remind yourself that this journey will soon come to an end and another will begin, so be kind my friends. To each other, to yourselves, to nature, be kind to animals, be respectful of the old, pay attention to children when they speak to you, regardless of whether they are yours, for they have pure wisdom to share, and this existence will soon come to an end and you will awake in a very different world. So pay attention to the details while you’re here.
Notice the pips of oranges, the scent of autumn mornings, and count the freckles on the face of your lover each morning, because one day she may be gone. Be present with this life, smile even when you are in pain, not to hide what you are feeling, but just to say, “Yes I’m bleeding in knowing that you’re leaving, but it’s ok.” Stay awake my friends, it’s been a long night, it has at times been dark and lonesome, it has been full of suffering and fear, but stay awake my friends for the enduring dawn is near.
She is softly spoken, she treads lightly with a gentle gait, so stay awake. That you may tell her of the glorious details of this world, of the scents and sensations, the friends you did make. Tell her of the joys of eating food that you grew, the taste of the rain, and how it was different to the taste of the sea…
Pay attention and appreciate the feeling of warm towels, and cold showers, notice that the sun rises from a slightly different position each day, count the dimples in the moon and the wrinkles on your mother’s face, memorise the sound of your father’s voice and the way your parents called your name, for one day this will all come to an end, and you will want to recall these things, so slow down the passing of time and pay attention my friends.
Watch steam as it rises and disappears, notice the feeling of different textures on your skin, breathe deeply as you chew your food that you may take it all in, count the grains of sugar you put in your coffee, be present with your tea, appreciate the touch of cold steel, examine your hands every now and then, consider the things that they have committed and those they accomplished, look yourself in the mirror and eye gaze for a few minutes each day, this world will one day be the faded memory of a dream, so pay attention dear friends.
Do not act in haste, do not let your hearts house hatred, do not rush through life trying to change it or fix it or make it better in any way, just sit with it, be loving and kind, be present and patient. Put headphones on and listen to classical music as you stand still in busy city streets, consider the people who walk past you without so much as a glance at your long lost friends.
Look at the food that you waste, and the packaging that you threw away, consider how you could be kinder to this earth and all its inhabitants, watch a tree being cut down and tell me it’s not painful. Listen to the sound of bleating lambs being separated from their mothers, look in the eyes of a cow being lead to slaughter, slow down for a moment and consider if it was worth it.
Slow down my dear friends, be kind to one other, I beg you be patient. There is no evil other in this world, just beings like you, who are confused, frightened and a little ashamed. I tell you, there is no judgement, no sin, it will all be ok, but while you are still here, slow down, be gentle, be kind, be patient.
And know that if I must leave this place before you, I will remember you, and I’ll be waiting.

 

Erfan Daliri 26/5/2017

Nobody cares about your feelings

You need to come to terms with this. You can remain a prisoner of your emotional self or you can decide to train and better yourself at the controlled expression of emotion. To believe that your emotional response is a valid or true judgement of any experience diminishes and detracts from your experience of life. Remind yourself that your emotional response is just your tiny and insignificant opinion. An ever-changing and transitory one as well.

 

Just because you felt a particular way in response to a certain set of words does not imply that those words were inherently kind or unkind, cruel or just, disrespectful or enlightened; this is a judgement you choose. Your decision, your response is not a valid judgement on those words or the person who spoke them. Your thoughts on that experience are an opinion, your opinion, and not a statement of fact. So stop your bickering.

 

Your feelings are responses to external stimuli. They are not an accurate gauge, true understanding or valid judgement of that external stimuli, they are simply the way you chose to respond. If unkind words, if a gesture of disrespect, if a cold, rainy, windswept campsite, or painfully slow traffic, has the ability to affect your emotional state in a negative way, that is a reflection of your inability to be the master of your own self.

 

This is not to say that one must be void of emotion at all times, to become insensitive and numb to the glorious array of experiences that life has to offer, no, much to the contrary.  What I am saying is that your ability to be the master of your emotional state will ensure that you will be able to sense, and feel, to experience and witness life at an even greater depth.

 

When sadness, anger, depression, hurt, rage, frustration and all the other refractions of fear are no longer coded into your auto-response, then and only then will you begin to witness the finer, more detailed, nuanced and exquisite beauties of life. The further you develop your ability to witness existence and not be coerced or triggered into automatic responses, the more deepened your experience of life becomes.

 

When a neo-Nazi hurls a curse and a salute your way from a passing car, when a lover speaks words that spit in the face of your expression of love, or when a colleague gives you critical feedback that does not feed your ego the way you had wished, you have a choice to be hurt or upset or disappointed, or you can choose to be a non-reactive witness of that experience. From a position of cool, calm, collectedness, you have the ability to learn from that experience.

 

You may learn more about yourself, you may learn more about the other person, about life, psychology, spirituality, you might come to understand a little more about interpersonal communication or perhaps economics or politics. If however you respond with an instantaneous and automated feeling of hurt or upset, you fail to witness anything new, you withhold yourself from the possibility of bettering yourself.

 

As you develop this ability in yourself you do not become cold or insensitive, rather you become witness to life and capable of experiencing even more intense feelings of joy, gratitude, bliss and contentment. You begin to notice the texture and flavour of a banana more intensely, you feel the sensation of a brisk cold wind with more depth and understanding, you sense the touch of your lover more intimately, and you are more likely to experience fits of laughter and bouts of giggling joy.

 

These sensations and feelings, these joyous realisations and glorious experiences of gratitude await you just beyond the gates of the prison of self. As you leave the limited experience of judgement and the negatively charged automated responses, you enter the realm of The Witness. As you train yourself further and further to love all that you see and experience, and refuse to remain trapped within the tiny body of the emotional self, you can witness reality for the absurd beauty, the glorious comedy, the intricate infinite existence of pure joy that it is.

 

You begin to realise that it was only ever your response to life that was dark and painful, it was only ever your decision to place this judgement on life that created your experience of it. And your decision was never a true reflection of the nature of existence. Rather it was a reflection that was muddied by the mirror of self. It was your own fears that had left dust on the mirror that is you, and as such projecting a dimmer and diminished version of reality; one that you yourself had cast.

 

It is The Witness who is peaceful and at peace, it is The Witness who is enlightened and understanding, it is The Witness who is kind and generous and compassionate without any thought of barter or reciprocation. It is The Witness who is patient, trustworthy and reliable. It is The Witness who is unconditionally loving and supportive. It is The Witness that one can rely on for advice, protection, guidance and true recognition. For all others are trapped behind the veil of self. It is The Witness who will accept your expressions and your aggressions, your words and your actions, without judgement and offer in return only love.

 

So become The Witness. Leave behind your limited emotional self and move towards this greater version. It is The Witness that people are in search of, and crave so deeply. It is this type of person who will bring peace to troubled minds and ease the suffering of grief-stricken hearts. It is this type of person that we seek in our relationships, friendships, as our comrades, friends and lovers.

 

So become The Witness. Become that which this world needs the most. That which you seek is seeking to become you.

 

You have the capacity to reflect the light of God, so clean your mirror, your heart, that you may become and allow others to witness the true reality of nature. Let the light of The Sun be reflected by you without dust and mud getting in the way. Your fears are affecting your experience of life, you are the only one who can change that.

 

Life is what it is, not what you think it is, so clean and clear yourselves of your fears and fear-based emotions that you may witness it for the glory that it is.

 

Erfan Daliri 26/5/2017